Most of the time when someone says to me, “Thanks in Advance” it feels as though they are making assumptions about my completion of a task or compliance with a request without waiting for me to agree in the first place.
More than once I’ve been tempted to respond with:
“Bite Me! – Thanks in Advance.”
I am happy to say that my cooler head usually prevails, and I am much more charitable with my responses. I recognize that offering gratitude when making a request is a good idea, please just don’t use the phrase “Thanks in Advance”.
When you go to restaurant, or work with any kind of customer service agent do you give a tip? Of course you do! But did you know that originally the tip was given at the start of the interaction, not the end?
The origins of the word “tip” is an acronym that stands for “To Insure Performance” and it was often broken into two parts. “Here’s $5, there’s another $10 in it for you when we’re finished if you do a good job.”
That kind of proactive gratitude can change the interaction between parties profoundly. But it is far more than just dropping a few dollars and saying thanks in advance. Gratitude is not something that can be done cheaply or sporadically, it needs to become part of our constant attitude.
Cultivating an attitude of gratitude (I hate that phase too, not because it’s wrong it just sounds cheesy), starts with saying thank you but when it becomes a part of who we are it leads to level of graciousness, that people will remember forever. And people want to do things for other people when they feel like they are appreciated.
So make gratitude a part of your daily life. Be thankful for everything.
Rather than saying “thanks in advance”. Drop little thank you bombs into the conversation every chance you get. Start a meeting with “hey, thanks for meeting with me.” When you make a request for something say; “thanks for considering this, or thanks for taking the time to review my proposal.” As the relationship moves forward don’t forget to say thank you at every completed stage.
Don’t be afraid to say thank you in public either. Giving a seminar? Thank the organizer for inviting you right from the stage. Sign a big contract? Thank your client on twitter or facebook, just be careful not to reveal anything that might be considered confidential.
I thanked a client on twitter once and they retweeted it to all of their followers. It was a great way to increase my own exposure and generate even more leads. So I thanked them for that too!
People love to be thanked and being gracious always pays dividends.
Thank you for reading it.
Who do you want to thank today? Tell me in the comments below or forward this post directly to them, I will be super grateful if you do, and I’ll make sure you know it…