Love is something if you give it away
Give it away, give it away
Love is something if you give it away, you end up having more…
That is an excerpt from a song I learned when I was about 8 years old attending Sunday School in the musty basement of the Nairn Mennonite Church. My dad, at 79 years old, is the pastor there today and I bet the Sunday School kids are still singing that song.
That little ditty goes on to compare love to something magical, like a penny that increases in value and volume the more you give it away.
You’ll have so many – they’ll roll over the floor!
It came back to me recently during a discussion of gratitude with one of my mentors. I also wrote about it in my first book “Meekonomics”.
Love, like gratitude isn’t really a thing until you give it to someone.
I didn’t get it when I was 8, in the basement of the church but as the song says – Love is only something if you give it away.
Now, there’s lots of different kinds of love but the three we are most familiar with are
Eros – The physical attraction that sometimes leads to a life long commitment between two people to do life together.
Philia – Brotherly love, the expression of mutual respect and deep friendship that grows out of community.
Agape – The all encompassing love of “the other” which is the underpinning of a society based on law and social justice.
But none of these types of love are anything unless you freely give them to someone.
Last year one of my mentors retired. At his retirement party he quoted Scottish Journalist, Alexander Chalmers who said:
“The grand essentials of life are: Something to do, someone to love, and something to hope for”
He went on to say that he hoped that throughout his career he had been able to convey and sense of love in all that he did for his team and the hope that he had for our future.
Love is a funny thing. And talking about it here and in this way might seem a bit odd. But I firmly believe that cultivating a sense of Agape and Philia in all that we do is the only way to truly move people forward.
So freely give Love – it’s only a thing when you give it away.