Psst… I’m About to Reveal My Secret Identity


There is a piece of my past that I don’t talk about much in the daily course of business but as we go deeper, it’s time you knew.

I’m a P.K.

I bet most of you are wondering what the heck that is.

Well, before I tell you, just know that I am in good company. 

Denzel Washington for instance is a P.K, so are Alice Cooper, Katy Perry, and George Stephanopoulos.  Looking back in history, Aretha Franklin was a P.K, so were Malcolm X, Vincent Van Gogh, and Ralph Waldo Emerson. 

Give up? 

What if I told you Martin Luther King Jr was a P.K. too, would that give it away? 

A P.K. is a Preacher’s Kid. 

Surprised? 

You shouldn’t be.  If I’ve been true to myself in all our interactions to date, the signs have always been there. 

Growing up a P.K. you experience life differently than most kids.  When your dad, (or increasingly your mom) is front and center of a community, teaching life lessons, counselling parishioners and leading by example, your perspective is altered.  Speaking from experience, it’s not enough to be kind to your neighbour, P.K.s are held to higher standard, it’s almost as if the community thinks we are God’s grandchildren or something.

A lot of us crack under the pressure.

Look at those names again, there no angels there, but they do all share a couple of interesting traits.  They all understand the power of words, the art of oratory and the importance of being true to your convictions, even if the ideas they eventually claim as their own aren’t exactly in alignment with those of their parents. 

I’m no exception. 

I won’t bore you with a laundry list of my indiscretions, just know that they happened, just like yours, and let’s move on. 

Pastor Dad, as I sometimes call him, taught me to study the words and teaching of many great philosophers and teachers (not just Jesus) and come to my own conclusions.  Through that study I found the work of a little-known theologian by the name of Paul Tillich. 

Tillich lived and worked most of his life in Germany but had to flee to the west late in life after publicly opposing the Nazi party. Embedded within his body of work are five important lessons for living your best life that I wanted to share. 

1 – The best life is a rich and varied one.

We are wholistic beings.  You can’t separate one aspect of your personality from the other without losing something.  Your values and beliefs interact with and influence the other areas of your life.  You must embrace complexity, diversity, and nuance, so that you can live a rich and fulfilling life.

  • Avoid compartmentalization.
  • Think holistically and take the time to assess how each of your choices will affect each aspect of you and your values.

2 – In the face of life’s uncertainties, be courageous.

You must learn to hold onto yourself, keep a firm grip of who you are and be brave.  Courage is not the absence of fear but “self-affirmation in-spite-of.”

  • If you believe in yourself, affirming yourself despite whatever difficulties life throws at you, you become your own anchor in a swirling sea of uncertainty.
  • By accepting anxiety as inevitable, but always conquerable, we can courageously bear the weight of existence, no matter what life throws at us.

3- Overcoming loneliness involves embracing the joy of solitude.

Truly appreciating the difference between loneliness and solitude is the key to unlocking self-acceptance and meaningful connection.

Loneliness is the pain of being alone, while solitude on the other hand, is the glory of being alone. Embracing the glory of solitude, and learning to love alone time, is the best antidote to loneliness.

  • We will all spend periods of our lives alone, this we cannot control, but we hold immense power over how we respond to this aloneness.
  • By embracing solitude, alone time can turn from lonely to truly joyful.  There are ways to turn aloneness into a positive experience.

4 – Life is about transformation.

Each of us has the ability to embrace change and transform ourselves into a newly courageous and joyful individual whose life is rich and fulfilling in every sense.

  • Allow yourself to step out of your Old Being into your New Being by embracing the power of change.
  • Accept transformation and change as a positive, spiritually enlightening experience.

5 – Without self-awareness, true fulfillment is unobtainable.

If preliminary concerns like work or politics take up a large amount of space in your life, care should be taken to make sure that these do not dominate you.

  • Try to remain mindful of your beliefs, those spiritual aspects of your life that shape and guide you and that comfort you in times of boredom or trauma.
  • By embodying spirituality, and living ethically and faithfully, you can use preliminary concerns as a lens through which ultimate concern comes into sharp focus.

So, what do you think?  What are some of your ultimate concerns?  How can we work together, through your financial plan to bring things into focus and help you live your best life, aligned with your values?

Let me know how I can help, talk soon…

Lauren

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